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The moment you think you understand love, it transforms into something else entirely. It's like watching a city evolve - each interaction between people creates patterns that shape future interactions, yet the whole thing moves and breathes in ways no single interaction can explain. Love operates as both architect and blueprint of itself: your small acts of care shape your partner's responses which reshape your tendencies, spinning out loops that transform both people into versions of themselves that couldn't exist alone. Yet the moment we map these beautiful feedback loops and emergent behaviors, we've somehow missed love's essence - as if describing a dance by listing the positions of feet without capturing the music. This is love's fascinating paradox: it follows the most predictable patterns while remaining fundamentally unpredictable, uses the machinery of systems to create something that escapes systematic explanation entirely. It's both the most analyzed human experience and the one that most stubbornly resists analysis, leaving us with insights that feel simultaneously profound and incomplete.
#love#philosophy of love#emergent systems#complexity theory#relationships#feedback loops#chaos theory#Kierkegaard#autopoiesis#co-creation#aesthetics#dance metaphor#human connection#unpredictability#emotions#intimacy#relational dynamics#systems thinking#unpredictability in relationships#human experience#transformative love#romantic paradox#art and love#interconnectedness#relational psychology#existential mystery#transformative relationships#mutual growth#love as creation#philosophy of emotions
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Of course I forgot to send in the cute birthday celebration challenge forgive meee đ (but omg no pressure to answer if the birthday girl isnât feeling up for it!!)
But letâs tryâŚ
Sun + Moon for our blasty boy Bakugo đ
you catch katsuki in the in-betweens.
heâs grown suspicious of itâyou know he out of all people would notice; but you neither confirm nor deny that itâs intentional.
thereâs something about katsuki in that sliver of space and time right before sunrise and sunsetâright before the shift into something new.
âsomeoneâs excited,â you sneak up behind him, wrapping an arm around his shoulders as you kiss his cheek.
he grumbles before giving you a side-eye, cheeks turning a shade darker under the twilight. his lips part slightly as if heâs about to say something, but he tuts instead, clicking his tongue against the roof of his mouthâno sharpness, no bite.
you look at him curiously, hanging on to the stillness of the hour.
today is supposed to be a busy dayâthe start of a long trip for you and katsuki; the start of his first ever long trip, actually.
âsomethinâ on my face or some shit?â
you snap out of staring, gaze falling straight into hisâvermillion red softened into a deep mauve amidst the blue light.
this is why you do itâ
the perpetual frown on his face is gone, the tightness of his jaw loosened. thereâs a look in his eyes that tells you thereâs been something on his mind for a long, long while.
âthis is why you catch katsuki in the in-betweens.
you give him a small smile, a little mischievous as you lean in and peck him on the nose.
ânow you do,â you giggle as you inch closer on the wooden step.
he rubs his nose immediately, checking for smudges of lipstick, âfuckinââ
âjust all my lovinâ,â you tease.
youâre half expecting him to get back at you for itâto tickle you or smother you in kisses of his own; katsuki can be aggressive in love, a fact youâve come to know well over the years.
but he doesnât.
instead, he stares. a few paused seconds that feel slowed down to eternity. thereâs the look again, like somethingâs been on his mind, combined with the look people say he only has for you.
suddenly, you feel nervousâfor what, you donât know, but your hand searches for his out of instinct. itâs damp when your palm sticks against his, his fingers intertwining with yours like a habit of his own.
he turns your clasped hands over, catching view of the back of yours.
it stays quiet for a few momentsâa side of him you only see in times like this. you know thereâs a war waging on in his head, a decision heâs been mulling over just waiting to be spilled out.
you know because katsuki only ever sits out before sunrise when he has a lot on his mind.
âyou okay?â you whisper.
he hums, rubbing the back of your hand with his thumb, âjust thinkinâ.â
âyou can tell meâŚâ you nudge, ââŚif you want,â the butterflies in your stomach flapping harder.
you hold your breath.
he chuckles, that damn attractive half-sigh, âdonât know how yet.â
and you think you know what it isâa conversation you have every now and then, always with open-ended conclusions. katsuki has his issues, and so do youâ
âjust say it how it is,â
you never pressed him for answers, fully content to live at the pace he wanted because you loved him and that was enough.
âbut when katsuki looks at you like this, like youâre everything gone right in his life, itâs hard not to think about the possibilities of more.
tears begin to collect along your waterline as he leads your hand into his pocket, your fingertips grazing a small velvet box.
you choke up, tears falling as you pout.
âwoke up in the middle of the night with a fuckinâ god awful migraine,â he starts, wiping your tears with his thumb, âso i thought iâd go for a run, yâknow, sweat it out and shit.â
you nod, listening.
âbut when i got out of bed, you started mumblinâ my name,â he takes a deep breath, âthought you were awake, honestly, but you didnât say anythinâ when i asked what you needed.â
âlooked like you had a nightmare, so i went back to bed, andââ he pauses, collecting his words as he breathes out, ââyou hugged me nâââ
his eyes gloss over as he tucks you into his side.
ââyou told me you loved me.â
itâs not anything newâyou both know that; you tell him you love him all the time. butâ
âfuck, iâm ramblinâ,â he half chuckles again.
âi love that about you too,â you sniffle, half-giggling as you nudge his chin with your nose.
you intentionally catch katsuki in the in-betweenâs because you love the side of him that comes out when heâs a little loose-lipped; a little less tense from all the dayâs worries. you love the way he rambles, how he goes off on a tangent when heâs especially passionate about something.
he gives you a look so soft, your heart swells.
a small smile makes its way to katsukiâs face as he grips your hand tighter.
âcouldnât go back to sleep âcause all i was thinkinâ about was how to keep it this way forever.â
youâve pictured this moment a few times before, all in different scenarios, situations, locationsâalways with the note that even if it didnât happen, youâd be okay.
but now you have this: you and katsuki, on the wooden steps right by your garden bathed in twilight.
âdecided on it for a while, just didnât know when would be right,â he fishes the box out of his pocket, fiddling with it as he takes your hand in his other one.
âi know you said that lovinâ me was enough, but foreverâs a fuckinâ long time,â he half-chuckles again, a little choked up, âyou didnât think iâd let you waste that on some loser who wonât even ask you to marry him, did you?â
you donât think youâre coherent when you respond, a mess of tears and all the love you can pour out. katsuki doesnât even get to show you the ring before you tackle him, nodding into his chest.
it doesnât matter, anywayâ
it was more than enough that he even asked.
n/a: thank u for sending this prompt erika!!! i am so rusty but i am writing this with all the katsuki feelings in me, my heart could burst!!!! sun & moon = twilight just because of the presence of both during that hour; i also just think itâs such a delicate balance to haveâwhich i think also describes their relationship! katsuki has commitment issues 𼲠sorry, i love writing him in the process of healing ajkdndkd also !!! i also think katsuki can be romantic in his own way like wdym he reads all those shoujo mangas ⌠there is stored romance in that boy . maybe not the smooooothest but yk. it works. and also, he wasn't rlly planning on proposing at this moment (more during the trip) but !! just felt right yk?
#katsuki x reader#bakugo x reader#bnha x reader#mha x reader#katsuki bakugo x reader#shotorus.workbook#ask#rep#erika.đŚ#kedsandtubesocks#HONESTLY. this took me THE FUCKKKK out#ive missed writing so much#this is all i have for now im so soRRY đđđđ#anyway just some extra thoughts n context; katsuki and reader have been together a while and reader rlly truly loves him#and is willing to be how they are just bc reader loves him that much#katsuki has commitment issues aka more like long term forever life future kind of commitment issues#more like heâs just kinda scared that he wonât be able to deliver what he needs to in the relationship for that long#smth smth unpredictable job smth smth personal angst and heâs just not sure if heâll be good enuf ever#but he truly does love reader i think to the point that it scares him cos its not smth he can explain#also idt he feels like heâs good at /loving/ bc heâs not sure he knows how / if the way he does is whatâs best for reader#honestly i think a lot abt katsuki and all the shit i think heâd be dealing w and itâs a lot âŚâŚ.
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Sometimes I see time-travel!superbat where Bruce meets an older version of Clark and canât quite believe that itâs not an alternate reality. That things will play out for him like it did his counterpart. Where he doesnât believe that heâs worth it, or that anyone could stick around through his idiosyncrasies.
The fics unfold as Clark weathering that paranoia or distrust. His amusement at Bruceâs obstinacy. Or Bruceâs shock and disbelief at having a relationship.
What I would like, is a fic where Clark meets older!Bruce, one who has been married for years and shows how he loves his husband. Where Clark sometimes canât quite convince himself that Bruce actually wants their relationship and isnât just humoring him in some sort of way. That under all of Bruceâs masks, the ones that choose the most optimal decision in any situation, the ones that stress team cohesion and efficiency, that Bruce just wants him. Plain and simple. No ulterior motive. Just want.
I want that Clark to meet a Bruce who is so settled in his marriage, that he doesnât realize how the smallest of concessions are blazing neon signs to Clark. Laughing at a joke, leaning into touches, faint non-smiles, eye rolls, shifting his weight, literally any tell of his that he normally suppresses and just. Allows Clark to see. Puts on for Clark because he knows it amuses him. Wants him to see and be a part of.
Just, the easy acceptance of Clarkâs love that he couldnât convince himself heâd be able to make Bruce believe. Being loved back, just as fiercely. Altering habits not out of necessity, but preference. For someone so stoic, so controlled and measured in their every response, to see him be as relaxed as heâs capable of. To know that Clark has shaped that relaxation.
I think that the first thing Bruce does, unthinkingly, catches Clark off guard. Maybe he blinks at a question or raises an eyebrow. Reacts in a way he doesnât usually allow. And an alarm goes off in Clarkâs head. He keeps a list, a tally of all the ways this man isnât his Bruce, all of the ways heâs softer. He thinks there must be something wrong. An alternate universe, a trick of some sort. Because itâs wrong. For as miraculous as it is to see a Batman that actually chuckled at one of his jokes, it strikes him as wrong. Some sort of forced personality change.
And if he confronts Bruce about it?
Bruce is devastated. To learn that the man who becomes his husband doesnât believe that his love will affect him in measurable ways. That Clark will actually distrust him for how heâs changed. That the most remarkable thing heâs ever been a part of is so unbelievable that Clark looks for other explanations.
And Bruce may acknowledge that he can do a poor job of showing it, did a poor job of showing it in the beginning, but he loves Clark. For no particular reason other than that he wants to. It is not kindness or pity or whatever other misguided concerns Clark has. Itâs that he wants him and allowed himself to be changed. To be better. And he tells him so.
(When older!Bruce sees younger!Bruce he has a few helpful suggestions. Well, he thinks theyâre helpful. Younger!Bruce canât quite see how âmake sure to roll your eyes once a weekâ would make his future marriage better, but who is he to question it? It obviously worked out. Even if Clark looks at him like heâs grown a second head the first time he does it. Actually heâs pretty sure he x-rayed him but wonât call him on it. Just this once.)
#batman#bruce wayne#superman#clark kent#superbat#time travel shenanigans#batman x superman#one of bruceâs worst fears (relaxing his iron grip of self control) comes to pass and shockingly#heâs better for it. healthier. clark heals him by loving him.#also i love in fics where the older version of clark can just. predict bruce. mr unpredictable.#where itâs obvious bruce allowed himself to be known. and how terrified the younger version of him is at that knowledge#let him experience the mortifying ordeal of being known. the BOTH of them.#maybe older bruce knows that clark was concerned about him wanting their relationship but not the extent of it#so he anticipates having to assure him somehow that heâs happy. not like defend against being an imposter because he smiled#let them be happy your honor - i argue to the cold arbitration of the unending cosmos. i am disbarred from the milky way bar association
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Make yourself look tempting to me. Put on delicate fabrics that made it able to watch the curves of your body arching for me, the same ones that are easy to rip off so I can mark the skin underneath as I please. However, don't think you can fool me pretending you aren't doing the same thing outside, discreetly. When you pull up that bad boy attitude while we both know those shinny piercings are as much as toys for me to play with as those you only use for me.
#it's such a good contrast#who's gonna tell the scary dog is actually a well trained puppy?#transparent laces and piercings are such an unpredictable hellish combo#female led relationship#male sub#femdxm
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While I think the moment in cql where Meng Yaoâ still bleeding from a stab wound in his chest btwâ realizes Lan Xichen is in danger and decides to save the man who was so kind to him in cloud recesses is cute and all, nothing will ever beat the book for me. Little bookkeeper civilian Meng Yao, who has not had a serious chance to make his dreams of being a cultivator come true in fucking years, out of nowhere gets the fucking sect leader of Gusu Lan dropped right in his lap?
It's such a great example of Meng Yao's multilayered motivations to me. Because is civilian Meng Yao thinking of all the ways he can use this? Of the fact that having a great sect leader in his debt is the best thing that could happen to him? Duh. Obviously.
Is he very purposeful about appearing to Lan Xichen as a kind young man full of untapped potential, brave and willing to put his life on the line even though he really doesn't know so much about about cultivators, no sir, except a little he picked up here and there, because you see his fatherâ đđ Of course he is!
But the way through which he does that is... by actually saving Lan Xichen's life, at no doubt significant personal risk. The way he makes Lan Xichen believe he's kind and selfless is by... being kind and selfless. Just because he's doing it on purpose doesn't mean he's not doing it.
Is it lying if you want people to think you're nice and so you're nice to them? Isn't that just called being nice? Yes, he is very purposeful about how he appears to people, and very carefully crafts an image based on what he wants them to think of him, but most of the time he does that simply by... actually being the kind of person he wants to appear as. He still did the kind things he did, regardless of his motivations for doing them.
#mdzs#mdzs meta#meng yao#jin guangyao#lan xichen#rs: i wish it could've been you#I think for a guy like nmj the reason this 'fakeness' is scary is because it makes him unpredictable#meng yao COULD be nice to you because he wants you to think well of him and the best way to do that is simply being nice.#OR he could be planning to kill you later. you have no way of knowing which one it is.#but like... the existence of the latterâ while obviously very troubling!â doesn't really make the former manipulation in and of itself#but both people in universe and the fandom frustratingly often take it as such#'i want this person to like me so i'm gonna be nice to them' <- this is not manipulation. this is just interacting with people.#anyway this dual motivation probably also applies to show meng yao. who is scrambling to find something else now that he's been banished.#but the reason the novel grips me so much is little civilian a-yao doesn't even *know* lan xichen yet.#it's the journey of this at first being very inpersonal- both as an opportunity and as a heroic act#(the impression he's giving being that he saved a stranger because he's just that kind of person đ)#and over the course of their time spent hiding together becomes... very very personal.#meng yao coming in with a very general plan that he could charm any kind of person with and slowly adjusting it to fit lxc#but how is that so different from just... getting to know a person and realizing what kind of relationship you want to have with them?#I also just think it's cute to have a-yao get bonked over the head with the realization that this guy is so fucking NICE what the FUCK?#no way he's this lucky. good shit doesn't *happen* to him where's the catch with this guy??? hello???#lucky of course both on a personal level and for his practical goals. i loveeee both sides of a-yao's brain screaming in tandem
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I love Chevalier but he'd hate me cause I'm loud, annoying and opinionated.
#he's funny confident and has a stupid laugh what more could i want from a man#unfortunately I'd probably remind him Clavis in some way đ#i love them both but I'm drawn more to Chevalier relationship wise#i don't like unpredictable chaos sorry Clav#ikemen series#ikemen prince
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âŚI said I didnât want to make another OC and YET I canât stop thinking of a âwhat if Mark and Gemma had a daughter before Gemma diedâ OC idea
#i have likeâŚnothing figured out except:#sheâs a teenager. around the same age as june kilmer#complicated relationship with mark esp about his choice to sever#possibly shipped with june đ#(i just have to figure out if they meet in school or some other way đ
)#ANDDD a bit more tuned in to lumon politics than sheâll ever admit to mark#especially since her dadâs been acting off ever since the night he had her stay with devon for a little while#(that was the night petey was accosting mark. obviously mark was not gonna let his daughter be around a man he doesnât know#not even in the same NEIGHBORHOOD. esp since peteyâs unpredictable with his reintegration sickness#plus her friendship with june has to stay secret from him for a bit for funsies)#so when she hears that helena eagan got severed for the sake of furthering the eagan family mission#calling herself âhellyâ#and that HER DAD (mark) was hellyâs coworker??#âŚwell currently unnamed oc still loves her dad. and NO ONE is going to take advantage of him#will this lead to anything? i have no idea#idk if sheâll even become a full-fledged oc#but i figured iâd at least jot down the concept if nothing else đ
#severance#update: the name marina sounds right for her :D#marina scout (or casey scout if gemma gives marina her maiden name as her middle name)#now to find a good faceclaimâŚ#oc: marina scout
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new content bucky is a Daddy and no one can change my mind i don't even wanT TO HEAR IT
#the pudge? the gray? the bob/slicked back?#the motorcycle?#the suits?#you're telling me that in a world where steve left (i hate it) bucky wouldn't throw himself into a provider relationship?#cling to any scraps of it?#long to have a sense of purpose with someone that is worthy of protecting for GOOD?#please#he's the Daddy that stays your Daddy no matter how often he comes and goes#it doesn't matter that you don't know what he does for work#it doesn't matter that he shows up into your life unannounced and leaves just as unpredictably#it doesn't matter that you have flings/see other people#he's always your Daddy#ALWAYS#anyway...#i haven't been on tiktok in a while archie have you made insane tiktoks of him yet my queen of edits#(also i don't want to hear the argument of bucky not wanting to be connected to anything/anyone because of his fears and his past)#(that's too saddddddd let me have this Daddy Bucky)
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#ts4#the sims 4#ts4 vanilla#simblr#ts4 gameplay#gameplay#casper#celia#now their relationship has gone from unpredictable to strained to unpredictable
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ok as someone who doesnât really care for musical beetlelands (donât get me wrong i understand what the appeal is and itâs a fine ship)
i LOOOVE what u r saying about movie beetlelands. something about that dynamic just sounds⌠chefs kiss. thanks for opening my eyes
THANK YOU!!!!!! I'm so glad you agree and I am going to rant about movie Beetlands now
Okay first of all, Geena Davis and Alec Baldwin are both 6'0, and Micheal Keaton is 5'9, so........ the icky man is shorter than both of them /pos
I'm going to be real I think Moviejuice is a real shitty guy, he was alive in the 1300s so I'm sure he's misogynistic, womanizing, homophobic, transphobic, etc. But just like the other two juices I still headcanon him as pansexual and genderfluid. So, the beetlands relationship would force him to face those biases. (I also headcanon the Maitlainds as T4T and bi because I am cringe what did u expect)
Speaking of biases and generally being a mischievous and evil creature, I know that Barbara would put him in his place and no way in hell would he not listen to a beautiful women if she told him what to do. He'd try to convince the Maitlainds otherwise but he absolutely loves being bossed/dragged around because he is sick and vile and silly.
I love movie Maitlainds so so so so much like, Barbara seeing Delia talk about changing their house and going "I'm gonna get her." THEY'RE SO FUNNY and so madly in love they make me sick..... like the scene where they were sitting on the couch and the phone was ringing but everytime one stood up to get it the other pulled them back and they smooched while giggling like ARE YOU KIDDING ME.
Ummmm also *because* of that I also like the idea of Beetlejuice being the recipient of that affection... listen he would have to earn it first but also I can't stop thinking about that evil creepy icky guy being faced with cuddles and kisses and pretending he doesn't like it because he's totally above all that and love is for losers. But *also* relationships totally are NOT unfamiliar territory for him he's like super experienced totally wdym.
He would be a cool weird uncle figure for Lydia hjahxjaodbabdjcjejahcjsofbsbsbajcjajdhakrhcbabd and Lydia would make him realize he's genderfluid sorry I don't make the rules
I NEED TO BEAT HIM UP GRAHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He would like it.
I hate that thing guys so much horrible character I get no enjoyment from his stupid face and I totally don't think about him 24/7 mhm yeah.
#Oughhhhh#beetlejuice#keatlejuice#moviejuice#beetlejuice 1988#beetlands#movie beetlands#beetlelands#movie beetlelands#why are there so many different spellings of the same ship name#I'm not ok#graghh#I don't think he would go soft exactly#I think he'd be just as creepy and mischevious in that relationship#he would just be more comfortable giving/receiving affection and#sharing the unpredictable and vicious sides of himself that he normally conceals unless it benefits him in some way#I need to dig around in his psyche
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I know I lose a year of my health every time I venture into MDL comments, but the way so many people hate fu ling and hate her complicated relationship with chong zhao........yall need to learn to have fun.
#their relationship is quickly becoming my fav since it's unpredictable#whereas the main couple is still fun but also kind of boring.......#jina watches cdramas#moonlight mystique
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"my love language is physical touch" "my love language is gift giving" maybe my love language is loving. maybe I will do anything for you if I think it will make you happy. I will buy you gifts and give you hugs and reassure you and make you things. I will think of you and talk to you and indulge in intellectual discussions and quiet moments. I will show you my favourite calm forest and my favourite busy street. I will dress up for you and with you and give you the art and academics I carry in my heart. I will give you comfort and something amusing to bond over and show you something beautiful. maybe I just love deeply and there's no way to limit how I love you. I just love you so much.
#Not dissing on love languages but. They just feel so limiting sometimes#inspired by the fact that I am coming to terms that my life will change unpredictably over this next year#and I will have to say goodbye to a lot of loved ones as our relationships may completely change#and how do I show my love for them?#i will give gifts and letters and hugs and small parts of my soul with all of them#love#love langauges
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It seems op deleted this post but I can't stop thinking about this and I need y'all to suffer with me
#altan and chaghan. that's it that's the post#tpw#the poppy war#but there are sooooo many great ships that can be fit into this category#the attack dog and their handler trope >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>#a relationship so destructive yet#so special that it can't be imitated or mirrored with anyone else#also both parties have to be at least a little bit fucked up for it to work lmao#and by a little bit I mean so incredibly fucked up#to the point they balance each other out in their impulsivity and unpredictability. chefs kiss#because the attack dog character won't listen unless the handler is just as unwell as them (or even more)#battle of wills that ends in unbreakable devotion>>>>>>>
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Mother has asked for an update on the weather/fire watch sitch here and so she has received the "it fucken wimdy" fox. She will either find this incomprehensible or incredibly funny. I have no way of knowing in advance.
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tomodachi life really went off with those bonzi buddy ass voices. win xp type text to speech. all character creation focused games should have this.
#ive been playing it recently! i played a tiny bit a long time ago but i was busy at the time so it wasnt much#but i found that gender removal mod and set it up and it makes it so so so much more enjoyable#of course it cant give us gay marriage because of the way the game works#BUT it makes having to make one a different gender a bit less misgendery which is nice#which is nice cause i made my lookalike type a (male in original text) so i could wear more masc clothes and also not get pregnant#my tiny clone is allowed to get OTHER people pregnant thats okay. but if it got pregnant i would blow the whole island up#also im making various ocs and siren always wears dresses so i made him b (female in original text) so he could <3#if you have specific pairings of characters you want to happen you'll have to do more planning around the 'genders'#but tbh im just letting whatever happens among my ocs happen regardless of their canon relationships. this is a terrarium to me#i'll probably make mickey type a just in case i dooo wanna pair her with su or another woman#i think i'll have fun seeing what kinda crackships of my own ocs arise...#stuff like that. god i need living the dream. i need it on switch1 because im not getting 2 until like i dunno#5 years into its life cycle at least. i waited like 4 years for the original switch i can wait as long as i need LOL#i hope its crossgen. im sure it'll be... it has to be.......... i also hope they keep the weirdness and unpredictability of the originals#this is what i want from my character sims. i want the characters to do shit on their own and i want to watch. i want to see my BUGS#i want to see my BUGS in my TERRARIUM. pretty please <3#its so cute. i made lia and she likes rolling around in her apartment all day. you go girl!!!#my lookalike fought siren tho. mean to him.
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